What is she expecting? And, more importantly, what could ruin the potentially good thing you have going on?
The Girls’ Perspective
Of course all girls are made differently, inside and out, but there are universal standards that can bring guaranteed success on your second date, no matter how unusual the girl you’re going after is.
AskMen.com talked to five different girls, all of them different ages with different life goals (yes, all of them are hot), to find overall common answers on what can make or break the success of a second date. This article will give you the inside scoop on how to make your second date a winning success.If you follow these three tips, along with the cheat sheet tricks, you’ll come in first on your second date — and you’ll be gliding into the ever famous third date in no time.
1. Make her feel comfortable by…
A) Being yourself — just act naturally
This is the most important rule of all. Usually when a second date is considered unsuccessful, it’s because the guy wasn’t being himself — he was trying too hard. So, don’t do or say anything that feels unnatural or forced. If you’re comfortable, she’ll be comfortable. The best thing to do is to keep in mind that if you lose this one, it’s not the end of the world, so relax. Don’t try to impress her; she’ll see right through you. Just have fun with her.
Cheat sheet trick: A good trick is to pay attention to how you speak. You should sound natural and at ease with yourself. Avoid using cliché lines like, "Pick you up at 8?" Instead, stick with a more natural language. Call her up and say, "I’d like to come get you. Where’re you gonna be later on?"
B) Getting rid of any awkward situations
You don’t want her to associate you with any kind of awkwardness — on your part or on hers. Do whatever it takes to make your date free of uncomfortable situations so that the two of you can be relaxed and enjoy each other.
Cheat sheet trick: Take charge and pick her up rather than meeting her somewhere and having her waiting in a strange place by herself. Worse yet, she walks into a strange place alone with you already there, watching as she clumsily stumbles around looking for you.
C) K.I.S.S: Keep it simple stupid
Don’t do anything spectacular or you’ll scare her off. Plan an activity that’s different from the first date, but make sure it’s nothing too demanding. The second date is about getting to know each other better. Have a few options planned, but don’t force her to choose or she’ll feel put on the spot.
Cheat sheet trick: Do something light and fun. Think of little destinations or missions the two of you could go on that are easy. For instance, go on a mission to get a specific brand of Popsicles and walk in the park with them or go try homemade raspberry beer at a bar that makes its own brew. Make it an event, but a simple one. Your best bet is to make it casual and painless.
2. Make her feel she’s interesting by….
A) Using your memory
A man’s memory is the quickest way to a woman’s heart. Show her you remembered details she mentioned on your last date. This will win her over, guaranteed. Girls go crazy when a guy remembers things she said about herself.
Cheat sheet trick: If you remember a few details she told you about her life on the first date — how many siblings she has or a little story — and you bring them up again, you’re gold in her books.
B) Asking more questions
Some of the most successful second dates were winners because the guy knew how to ask questions. Asking her lots of questions will make her feel special. But balance it out: You don't want to sound or feel forced. And don’t ask cliché questions or you’ll come off as anxious and desperate. You have to show interest and make your questions interesting at the same time.
Cheat sheet trick: Instead of saying, "Uh… you wanna get a drink or something?" Say something like, "Lets step inside for a drink. I’m intrigued by you. I want to ask you some questions." Then ask about her life growing up, ask what her nightmares were, what her parents were like, what her biggest fears were.
To keep your questions sounding natural, a good trick is to look at her and ask her questions about one of her current attributes like, "Where’d you get that watch?" or, "So how much time did it take you to grow your hair that long? Really? What was the shortest you ever had your hair?"
C) Looking into her eyes
Looking into a woman’s eyes shows her that you have self-confidence and that you can be trusted. It will make her feel important, attractive, and it will get both your pheromones going.
Cheat sheet trick: When she’s talking, don’t get shifty. Look straight into her eyes; you’ll see that it’ll get her excited because she’ll feel that she has your full attention. If she gets shifty, you're being too intense.
Remember: You don't want to look unnatural, so don't overdo it with the gazing.
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